Here and There with Twin Cities Men

TCMC Annual Facilitator Training is back! It is happening on Saturday, June 20, from 12:15pm until 2:30pm!
This annual training will take place in-person at:
The Twin Cities Men’s Center
3249 Hennepin Ave S. Ste 55
Minneapolis, MN 55408
and online by Zoom video. All Facilitators are asked to attend this event to brush up on the best methods to manage peer-to-peer support groups. And it's a great chance to meet all of TCMC's other Facilitators, and catch up with those you haven't seen in a while. If you are considering being a Facilitator at TCMC, this is the first step in your journey. Or if you just want to sit in and lean, that's great, too!! Come on down!!
 
(Attending training is not a commitment to become a Facilitator. You may attend just to learn about our process. This is a free event and is open to men and women. TCMC Membership is not required.)
 
Send your RSVP to tomm@tcmc.org or register online HERE. If you’d like to attend online, send a request to tomm@tcmc.org to receive the link.
 
We hope to see you at the training in June! – Tom Maher, 2026-03-23

Dealing With The Approach/Avoidance Dance and Finding the Love You Need
Many of us have been caught up in what I call “The Approach/Avoidance Dance.”  We think we have found someone to love and things are going well. Then suddenly they begin to distance themselves. They may pick a fight or slowly drift away, but just when the relationship is starting to feel good, the other person starts moving in the other direction. But just when you try to give them space, they start coming back and acting like they want to hold you and never let you go. It can be crazy making.

As a psychotherapist who has worked with individuals and couples for more than fifty years, this pattern is very familiar. I recently had the pleasure of interviewing Dr. Laura Dabney about her new book, I Need You… Now Go Away!: Reclaiming Your Life When Someone You Love Has a Personality Disorder.  Continue Reading on the MenAlive Newsletter. – Jed Diamond, 2026-05-17.

SHADOW WORK® SEMINARS, INC. in conjunction with Shadow Work Community (formerly called Connection Gateways) invites you to...join us for zoom calls on some summer Sundays. 10AM CDT. And save these Sunday dates in 2026 (topics TBD): June 14, July 19, August 23, September 20, October 18, November 15.

If you'd like to see articles and video recordings of our foundational events about:
1. "The Big Four," 
2. "The Four Ways to Connect,"
3. "The Three Ways to Persist," 
4. "The Three Ways to Be Careful"
5. "The Three Ways to Be a Leader"
you can find them here  Most articles have a link to a video; just click [read more], and it will take you there. If you have questions you can reach us at <info@connectiongateways.org>
– Cliff Barry, 2026-05-13

Live with the power of the Dragon Most people spend an extraordinary amount of energy holding themselves back. We withhold truth, anger, desire, grief, ambition. We withhold difficult conversations. We withhold the parts of ourselves that feel “too much.” Over time, that energy doesn’t disappear. It becomes tension, a whisper of self-betrayal, overthinking, resentment, self-doubt, procrastination or the ache of knowing you’re capable of more.

The Dragon Training <www.TheDragonTraining.com> is about reclaiming that energy. The dragon is an ancient archetype of raw life force — fierce, powerful, and uncompromising. When you meet the dragon consciously, you begin transforming fear and inner conflict into energy for living. From June 26 to 28 in Massachusetts, we invite you into a deeply experiential three-day training designed to help you step into greater aliveness, agency, and audacity. When you harness the power of the dragon, you:
• Choose relationships based on truth rather than approval
• Stay grounded and powerful even when tension exists
• Set clearer boundaries and trust yourself to follow through
• Become more comfortable taking up space
Create the life you want instead of merely managing the life you have
This is not about becoming aggressive or dominant. It’s about becoming fully alive.

The Dragon Training, Camp Clara Barton, North Oxford, Mass., 1 p.m. Friday, June 26, to 4 p.m. Sunday, June 28, $1,600 all-inclusive <www.TheDragonTraining.com> The Dragon Training is co-led by David Kaar, co-founder of the ManKind Project and co-creator of the Dragon Training, and Karin Green, transformational coach, facilitator, and founder of Karin Green Coaching. – David Kaar, 2026-05-25.

Helen Lewis, staff writer at the The Atlantic Monthly magazine wrote the June, 2026 issue cover story: “The Men Who Don’t Want Women To Vote”. She writes: “When The Atlantic asked me to take on this subject, I was a little daunted. For a start, the battle of the sexes is one of the most eternal conflicts in human history, and separating out the well-evidenced facts from the lazy stereotypes is a demanding task. Added to that, I do think that some men and boys are struggling in ways that don’t get enough attention—for example, as my colleague McKay Coppins reported earlier this year, the majority of problem gamblers are male. That said, I don’t buy the masculinists’ line that feminism has ruined America...” – Arlene Walker Andrews, 2026-05-25.