Men Talk Articles - October/November 2016

TCMC / Twin Cities Men's Center Turns 40!

– © 2016 John Hesch and Tom Weaver
Come and celebrate 40 years of the Men's Center/Twin Cities Men's Center, on Saturday Oct. 22, 2016. "40 Years - Men Supporting Men!" is our theme. We are inviting supporters and guests to celebrate and envision TCMC's vibrant continuation into the 21st Century. Come for finger food, conversation, reflection and a special group circle sharing during this planned 4+ hour event. We envision a "green" low carbon impact, alcohol free event, modeling responsible earth-centered values.

Who: Men and our supporters, are encouraged to attend: those have been inspired by, are curious to learn and share about, our unique role in serving men here in the Twin Cities over 40 years. And those who share a vision for the coming years

Where: 300 Clifton Ave Minneapolis 55403, just south of Loring Park. We are fortunate to have the use of the newly restored Mansion managed by gracious hosts, John and Norman. This house has a fascinating history, built by a visionary, a founder of the Minneapolis Institute of Arts, and now run as a locally owned bed & breakfast and event center. Car-pooling suggested. There are 22 parking spaces next-door at 310 Clifton, and about 10, at 300 Clifton with parking on the streets. Anticipate greeters welcoming you at the front portico door. Look for the TCMC Banner See:

What: "40 Years - Men Supporting Men" is reflected in a time-line of events for four decades, and visions for the future! To be viewed in common space. Also personal reflections from men, written and shared in a talking circle, of HOW we have been living our mission of service: "to provide resources for men seeking to grow in body, mind, and spirit; and from that foundation to advocate for healthier family and community relationships".

When: Saturday Oct. 22, 2016
1:00 PM - 2:30 PM Arrive and share catered finger food in the dining room and ground floor of the mansion. Mix with friends and new acquaintances while visiting in the fireplace room, (drawing room) and the large conservatory with our time line. Lawn/yard games: bean bags, rodeo golf, bocce ball items available.
2:30 PM - 3:30+ PM Check-in circle, with optional wireless, microphone, to share experiences, with special opportunity to honor Randy Genrich, long term Men's Center advocate and outgoing office manager and others in our remembrance.
3:45 PM - 5 PM Wrap up and sharing closing.

Why: To celebrate, reflect and acknowledge the contributions of TCMC from 1976 - 2016. To share with like-minded people, who are inspired to make a difference in Men's Lives in a good way.

Cost: Donations of any amount accepted, suggested donation of $25 or more for a 40th Anniversary Royal Blue T-Shirt. As is our tradition, no one will be turned away for lacks of funds.

We look forward to more men sporting the royal blue T-shirt we are offering with donations in celebrating this milestone - For details during the next month, follow us on Facebook TCMC 40th Anniversary Celebration Event and RSVP here by Oct. 15 if possible.
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John Hesch our current Anger Management Coordinator reflects on Anger Management as one story and example of our work - How the Anger Management Program Began at The Men's Center.

The Anger Management Program began in 1994 with an inquiry to the Men's Center from Dave Decker. In his letter he wondered how he could be of service to The Men's Center. Herb Jaehne, then a board member, followed up with Dave who was a counselor doing domestic abuse groups in St. Paul. Herb had attended support groups at the Men's Center and was looking for a way to give back. It was decided that a program dealing with domestic abuse wouldn't work at the Men's Center, as they typically ran about 26 weeks. Instead, Herb and Dave came up with the concept of starting the group: Men Helping Men with Anger.

They began a 12 week program modeled somewhat after the 12 steps. Herb applied to non-profit foundations and secured two grants, from Dayton's and the Star Tribune. While Dave designed the materials for the class, Herb designed the brochure and started looking for volunteer facilitators. The first class of facilitators began training late winter of 1995, including pioneers, Gerald Obremski and Hank Bruns. Thus Anger Management classes were born. 21 years later, Anger Management is still going strong with 9 classes a year consisting of up to 15 men to a group. Classes are held on weekday nights by volunteer facilitators who share how the strategies are working in their own lives, to keep the classes more experiential, than theoretical. Currently The Anger Management Classes produce 55% of the revenue that keeps TCMC financially solvent.

Tom Weaver currently serve as the Vice-Chair of the TCMC Board, and John Hesch co-ordinates our long-running, successful Anger Management program.