TMC Administration Notes - August/September 2016

Letter from the Chair

Right now, the world seems like a hopelessly divided place in many ways. Good and evil, right and left, righteous and unjust. In politics, racial issues, and international relations, whatever middle ground there used to be has disappeared and been replaced with forced choices - Democrat or Republican, racist or fair-minded, for the terrorists or against them. Each side in these arguments digs in to their position ever more deeply, pushing the other side further away and making any kind of shared understanding more unlikely.

It wasn't always like this. There was a time when you could argue politics or social issues with someone holding diametrically opposed views, agree to disagree, and still walk away friends. This doesn't happen much these days because arguments on issues too often degenerate into attacking the credibility of the person you're arguing with. Ad hominem attacks like this do nothing to further understanding because we are all too busy protecting our self-esteem to think rationally. It's as if the goal when debating policy is to silence the people arguing against you by whatever means necessary, often by loudly calling them names. If you can make your opponent stop debating by impugning their dignity, then you are apparently one step closer to winning the wider argument - one down, several million to go.

This kind of "debating by attrition" reminds me of the saying that "an eye for eye leaves the whole world blind". Arguing against a point of view by attaching labels to those that hold it is not only a logical fallacy, it ensures they will do the same to you and that neither of you will be inclined to listen to the other about any other issue. Is "winning" on any one issue worth destroying the ability to work constructively on all future issues? It doesn't take long before we all realize who will agree with us and who will insult and embarrass us. Which means that whatever dialog we had with those holding different views is now silent.

As the American election season grinds on, I invite you to remember one of the key principles that makes TCMC the place that it is. Men, all men, whether gay, straight, bi or trans, regardless of our life experiences, and independent of our personal beliefs, have much more in common than we have to separate us. The same is true, in a wider context, of Americans and humans in general. Let's focus on those commonalities.

Joe Szurszewski
Board Chair


Library Corner

–– Jim Heaney, Librarian

We have a unique and extensive collection of books on men's and general topics which can be checked out by members of the Men's Center. Our periodicals include:

  • Fathering Today
  • Men's Health
  • Men's Journal
  • Lavender
  • Transitions
  • Voice Male.

The books in the Men’s Center Library are sectioned off into 14 categories.  These categories are: Fathers, Children & Families, Fiction, Gay & Lesbian, Health & Therapy, Humor, Men’s Movement & Masculinity, Men’s Stories & Poetry, Miscellaneous, Relationships & Friendships, Reference, Relationships & Friendships, Sexuality, Spirituality, Valued Elders, Women. 

The Men's Center is proud to have a signed copy of Timothy Young's recently published To the Palace of Kings. Timothy is very active in the men's movement. This is the book which was referenced in Men Talk.

The Men's Center Staff and Key Volunteers

Office Manager -- Randy Genrich (emeritus), Bill Baldwin (acting)
Office Assistant Mgr-- Bryon Wistrom
Anger Mgmt Director-- John Hesch
Office Volunteers -- Rick Charlson, Jim Heaney, Dick Madigan
Librarian -- Jim Heaney
Bakery Donation Pick-up --
See chart in kitchen area

Board Chair -- Joe Szurszewski
Board Vice Chair -- Tom Weaver
Board Secretary -- Norm Petrik
Board Treasurer -- Rick Charlson
Board Member -- Harry Greenberg
Board Member -- Andy Mickel
Board Member -- Damon Starks
Board Member -- Open
Alternate -- Dan Gorgonow

Alternate -- Malik Holt
Alternate -- Jim Heaney
Alternate -- Jamie Wellik

MenTalk Editor -- Bill Dobbs
MenTalk Production -- Bill Dobbs
MenTalk Here/There -- Andy Mickel
MenTalk Advertising -- Bill Dobbs
MenTalk Coord/Database -- Scott Benson
MenTalk Mailing -- Scott Benson, Jerry O,

Program Committee, Chair -- Norm Petrik
Wednesday Present Coord --Randy Genrich

Wednesday Present Publicity -- Rick Charlson

Finance Committee, Chair -- Rick Charlson
Finance Committee Chair -- Rick Charlson
Fin Comm Grant Writer -- Damon Starks
Fin Comm Memberships -- Andy Mickel

Outreach Committee, Chair -- Jim Heaney
Pride Festival Coord -- Damon Starks and Tom Weaver
Media Publicity Coord -- Rick Charlson
Outreach Booth at Locations -- Jim Heaney, Malik Holt
Librarian -- Jim Heaney
Web Site/Technology -- Bill Dobbs, Andy Mickel, Joe Szurszewski
E-mail Responders -- Scott Benson, Rick Charlson, Bill Dobbs, John Hesch, Andy Mickel, Joe Szurszewski

Anger Mgmt Director -- John Hesch
Anger Mgmt Grant Writer -- Bob Anderson
Anger Mgmt Publicity -- John Hesch
Anger Mgmt Steer Commit -- Bob Lundberg, John Hersch, David Giancristforo
Anger Mgmt Facilitators -- Tom M, Michael K, Jim K, John H, Art H, Bryce K, Pat G, Dean G, David E, Hoske R, Cory C, Michael I, John C, Lee C, Norm P, Bob L, Bob A, Harry G, Howard B, Tom F

Support Group Coord -- Norm Petrik
Support Group Database -- Open
General Men's Issues -- Randy G, Jerry O
Gay Issues -- Pat K, Bruce K, Ranslow Z
Transitions --Scott, Richard S.
Divorce/Uncouplng -- John M, Greg D, Gerry W
Sexual Trauma & Abuse Survivors -- Jerry B, Kathleen M
Bi-Men & Gay Issues -- Leo P, David W, Damon S.
Healthy Sexual Boundaries -- Bobby S, Tommy J
Healthy Sexual Boundaries East -- Bobby S
Healthy Sexual Boundaries Tues -- Rich P, Bobby S, Tommy J
Mankind Project Open Circle -- Tim K
Retirement -- Norm P

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We have been a vital part of the Twin Cities community for decades,
and almost all of our services have been provided by volunteers like you.